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The Liaison Life with Rockn' Rachel J

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Folks, you don't want to miss out on this.  You can believe that.

Aunt Rae Rae or Pet Pig?  

You Decide

When my niece was only 4 or 5 years old, I was babysitting her and at my wit's end as to what game to play next. It seemed everything I thought of bored her almost immediately.

So, I came up with the bright idea that we would draw pictures of one another. She was more than happy to take on that little play-time project.

As she gleefully informed me that she was ready to show me her masterpiece, I erroneously imagined that I would resemble Cinderella or some other Disney princess that she loved so much.

Silly me. My bad. This picture is what I got. 

REALLY?! THIS is what she sees when she looks at me?!

I mean, honestly, all I could see at the moment was some sort of pig that had been bred with a stray cat. (Actually, I still do.)

And for the love of God, what kind of attire is this? I’m not sure. All I know is that I can promise y’all that I’ve never walked around in a coconut bra and a tutu with what appears to be oven mitts on my hands.

But as I balked at the picture, I looked at her sweet, innocent face with those bright eyes shining as she joyfully asked if I liked it and I realized, “She thinks this is beautiful.”

And so do I.

Even though I still don’t see the slightest of resemblance between me and this drawing, I can see one thing:

We all have a different perception of ourselves than those perceived by someone else.

That concept has gotten me through many self-doubting moments.

A lot of times I perceive myself as not good enough, not smart enough, not experienced enough, or just plain not enough to get a freelance job.

But the people who give me opportunities tell me right the opposite.

They tell me they knew immediately after just one conversation that I was the perfect fit for their project.

They tell me that my skills and knowledge saved them from what could have been a nightmare waiting to explode into reality.

Their perception of me is slowly but surely becoming my self-perception.

And I love it.

Folks, perception of ourselves is a tricky little stick figure drawing. Sometimes it’s good, sometimes it’s not, but one thing’s for sure:

When you start seeing yourself the way others see you, you gain the confidence to…

Rock on in positive self-perception because I sure am.

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